Who Takes Care of You?

Imagine you're standing at the edge of a vast ocean. The waves crash against your legs, pulling you further from the shore, while the weight of everything you're carrying drags you under. Every time you try to keep your head above the water, another wave slaps you down, harder and faster than the last.

The difference? You’re not drowning in water. You’re drowning in your own life.

You’re treading in a sea of expectations, loneliness, self-doubt, and guilt. From the outside, no one sees it. You smile at school drop-offs. You make small talk at parties. You post a happy picture online, showing your “adventurous” life abroad.

But inside? You’re exhausted. Anxious. Empty.

It’s like being caught in an endless loop of waiting. “Once I feel more confident in my English... Once I make real friends... Once I get the hang of this new life, I’ll feel okay.” But how long has it been since you first arrived? Weeks? Months? Years? And yet, you still feel the same. Nothing changes.

If you’re feeling stuck, if you’re barely keeping your head above the water, I want to ask you one thing: Who’s taking care of you?

Because the truth is, no one is coming to save you. But you? You can save yourself.

Let me show you how..

The Invisible Weight of the Trailing Partner

When I moved abroad for the first time, I was convinced I was strong. I had a plan, a purpose, a clear path to follow. I was going to integrate, find a job, build friendships. My life would be an adventure, a fresh start.

What no one warned me about was the silence—the deep, aching silence of being alone in a foreign land. And not the kind of loneliness where you just miss your family. It’s the kind of loneliness that comes from feeling like an outsider in your own life. It’s the silent loneliness of feeling misunderstood, unseen, and unheard.

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